To be in another’s good grace is to be in good favor in their eyes. Perennial usually means living more than two years. Most relationships rarely survive this perennial limit; this includes both business and romantic involvements. Why and how does this falling out of grace happen?
Well, just for a moment consider why dogs have so many friends. They wag their tails and not their tongues. The reason most people don’t have solid, meaningful, and favorable social interactions is partly because they wag their tongues too much. Another part of this is once we become familiar with each other we feel we have moral license to display our disagreeable natures. Isn’t it strange how people love to complain?
Complaining and disagreeable natures along with a loose tongue are a perfect way to lose favor with the very people you need in your life. Here are a few suggestions I’ve personally found to make my life smoother:
1. Guard your tongue.
2. Never miss a moment to share a kind word.
3. Cultivate a genuine interest in others.
4. Be slow to make promises, and be fast in keeping them.
5. Treat your word as you would a legal contract.
6. Always be on time.
7. Listen openly to others opinions
8. Never respond to personal attacks
9. Passionately embrace high ideals
10. Walk your own path with dignity and courage.
In my mind, all human disfavor has its genesis in a lack of acceptance. Life is as it is and there’s nothing much that needs to be said. You cannot go on, you cannot improve, and you cannot heal until you stop picking at the scab. The river of life continues to flow anew and each step we take is into that new water.
While one may gain or lose favor in the eyes of others, if you totally accept this moment – this incredible here/now experience of being, you will never fall out of favor with yourself. You will then walk in perpetual grace and personal nobility. You’ll not be part of the vulgar mob.
William Hazlitt wrote, “The public has neither shame nor gratitude.” But, you can live your life as if it were a memorial to good deeds and human dignity, as a being of perpetual grace. Grace, in its essence, is the principle of forgiveness. Having the experience of self-favor dissolves negative tendency momentum that’s not only logged into the subconscious, but also in human tissue.
We come into this world as pure as heavenly raindrops. But, much like the rain falling through the atmosphere, we take on the qualities of foreign elements. Soon, we merge and meld with soil and soot. With minds dark and dirty, we once again begin our ascent. Without some glimmer of the light of favor, we could never even take the first steps.
You were pure and fine from the start; but opinions, borrowed knowledge, and inherited beliefs soiled your mind and hardened your heart. Now it must be re-fined. I know it’s hard to accept, that despite our appearance and covering, we all possess hearts of gold and minds of light hidden in the cave of our being.
In order to burn away the dross and reveal your inner richness–when the fire of anger and rejection begins to burn inside you – remind yourself to contain it in the furnace of your being. It is the fire of experience that will produce a 24 karat golden human that finds perpetual favor and works in total grace.
Strangely, we cling to the earth while the gates of grace open to reveal the wings of our hearts and the hearts to which we can soar.
Much love and success,
Written by Peter Ragnar