My addiction began so long ago. At that time, I didn’t know that I was hooked. I was twelve at the time and quite shy. I spoke in a heavy Finnish accent, so I wasn’t always understood. With platinum blond hair and innocent blue eyes, I stood out in my new city school. On a cold February day, I found myself sweating nervously as my confessions were opened and read.
It had just dawned on me how many Valentine cards I’d given out. It seemed every girl in the classroom was reading my Valentine card and my confession of “I love you!” all at the same time. Yep, I’d asked all the girls in the class to be my Valentine. I blushed; you see, I didn’t want anyone to feel left out. I suppose it was all innocent enough for a child to want to love and be loved in return.
As adults, do any of us really ever grow out of this? Underneath it all is the indwelling drive to reconnect with others at a heart level. When I realized at an early age that, in the words of an old Beatles song, “Love is all there is,” I felt compelled to make a difference in the lives of others. It’s a difference we can all make by spreading our love around.
Perhaps, the biggest challenge we all face is understanding what love actually is. For a twelve-year-old on Valentine’s Day, on the cusp of adolescence, the sublime madness in the air was from the sting of Cupid’s love darts. Even my adult adventures have led me to be captured by romantic love; ah, the joys of Eros that bind us strangely! Yet, as we become more consciously aware, we see that the fragrance of love comes from many flowers and in many forms.
Of course, there’s romantic love, which appears as the main theme of Valentine’s Day. There is also the love one has for family. Then there’s a special love reserved for friends, and an unconditional or principled love that we can extend to all humans and other living creatures. However, as we can come to realize, these four types of love are really just different fragrances wafting from the source of all love.
So, however we may choose to express love this Valentine’s Day, consider that behind these various doors of love’s expression, the real source is waiting for us to enter. It is in that love that we know “love never fails.” As I have grown from that shy platinum-haired child to an older adult, my early addiction to love has evolved into seeking the source of all love and drinking it to the fullest.
Let us make this toast together: may we all drink from the fountain of eternal love and may we spread its joy forever! Happy Valentine’s Day!
P.S. Here’s a Valentine’s gift for you! It’s a special video from Katrina and me about relationships! May you be blessed in love and thankfulness!
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