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Have you ever noticed what a fuss we humans make about the weather? Yep, I seem to be singing with the choir by addressing the weather in this newsletter. However, it struck me that a lot of us secretly wish for some excitement in our lives. Whenever someone tells me about how windy, hot, cold, snowy, or wet it’s going to be, it sounds like they’re declaring a national emergency. Do you ever get that guilty, gleeful anticipation, hoping it’s true? Then, when the weather happens, are you shocked and do you complain? It’s almost as if we don’t believe that seasons change, hot turns into cold, winter becomes spring, and once again the rains stop and the sun shines … as it always does.
Bless all those meteorologists. They have to work hard to hold our attention and keep us from getting bored with the weather reports. It seems that we only get bored with the weather when we’d like it to be other than it is. Do we spend time worrying that a perfectly beautiful day will remain perfectly beautiful? Demanding that the weather change to suit our moods is pretty much like demanding that people change their behavior so that we can feel better about ourselves. Hmm … lots of luck on that one!
A person’s emotional weather isn’t always a sunny, balmy 70 degrees.
I’m sure you’ve had friends and acquaintances from time to time go from sunny to stormy, or perhaps had relationships that turned cold. I have. Just like the outside weather, everything is always changing. In fact, there’s nothing permanent except change. I think the secret to all of this is simply to enjoy it as it is.
For example, there are few things as beautiful as seeing the sky darken and lightning illuminate the landscape. I can remember a number of years ago coming to visit this farm I now live on. It was a four-and-a-half-hour drive back to where I was living at the time, and a severe weather front was moving in. I really didn’t want to get stuck driving home in torrential rains on curvy back roads. Yet I felt compelled to climb to the top of the hilltop pasture. I could smell the ozone in the air, that sweetness before a storm. A light, warm breeze was increasing as I stood there in what looked like a scene from The Sound of Music. Yes, the hills were alive! The deep purple sky miles off was highlighted with dazzling lightning strikes, and the distant thunder was like drums from a magnificent musical playing. I must admit, I was transfixed. Those were the most beautiful lightning strikes I’d ever seen. What an awesome spectacle. I drove the four and a half hours home in the rain, but it was more than worth it!
Just being present with the weather is an enlightening experience. Today, the weather folks are forecasting snow for the first of November. Many people are saying, “What’s with the weather?” I’ll patiently find out. If it snows, then I’ll say it snowed. If it doesn’t, then I’ll say it didn’t. That’s pretty simple, isn’t it?
I admit, I look forward to standing outside when the first flakes fall, if they fall. I love the smell of earth before a snow, the rich damp scent of fallen leaves, the quiet hush of anticipation as if this were the first time ever. I try not to have any thoughts about it, but to expose myself to the experience with total acceptance and emptiness.
The same principle can be applied to the emotional weather of the people who come in and out of my life. I try not to have any thoughts about it, but to expose myself to the experience with total acceptance and emptiness. I try to give everyone space for their emotional weather, knowing it’s never personal or rarely permanent. Yet I always find it curious, and I’m sometimes awed at its power. I might even wonder, “What’s with the weather?” Then I wise up and remember this too shall pass, as it always does. In the end, it’s all good when it shows us our nature. It seems that’s what we humans do. And then we talk about the weather.
John Ruskin wrote, “Sunshine is delicious, rain is refreshing, wind braces us, snow is exhilarating; there is no such thing as bad weather, only different kinds of good weather.” So, what’s with the weather?
Reflections from Turtle Lake,
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